Once you have completed Part One on the empty side of the page, beside each complaint, write a new sentence.
This new sentence will be all about you, owning the very thing you were complaining about. Use it as an ‘I’ statement.
For example; I wish she’d be nicer to me………. I wish I was nicer to her. OR I wish I was nicer to myself. Both may be true.
Note how you feel taking ownership of your complaint of the other as something that you don’t exactly love about yourself.
Make a new doodle of how you feel with each sentence. Nothing fancy, just catch your mood with colour, shape, details. Remember to name each doodle with the sentence your tried on.
What all of us do, as par for the course, is project ourselves onto other people.
All day, every day.
When we don’t accept something about ourselves like stinginess, tardiness, thoughtlessness, bad listening, irresponsible, unreliable, etc, when these traits are not integrated into our complete sense of our perfectly imperfect self, we automatically put the unacceptable trait onto those around us and complain about it.
Sometimes very loudly.
We create a disharmony gulf that won’t be bridged.
Once you realize you’re really complaining about something you don’t like or accept about yourself, a small miracle occurs.
The more you accept every aspect of yourself, light and dark, the less you’ll have to complain about in others.
Just have a look at the two sets of doodle from Part One and Two. There’s loads of info in there to help you know how you really feel..
The more you embrace all of you, the more you’ll get along with others. You’ll feel your buttons pushed less often.
When you accept yourself, you will have a much easier time accepting others.
Or you simply won’t care what they do.
Because you are OK about it in you.
Bliss is detachment from what anyone else is doing.
It’s as simple as that.
Humbling and true.
Humility and curiosity are the best allies to have in any relationship.
Invite them along and see how much more fun the ride becomes.
Tend to your stuff and see how little it matters about all the stuff flying around you.
You’ll be at peace.
Home Sweet Home.